Freelance Begone (Poem)

He struggled to find, as hard as he looked,

a freelance writing gig that he could book.

He applied to several, begged for even more,

but no one would give him the simplest chore.

He guest wrote posts, all to no avail.

No one wanted to pay him to tell their tale.

Months and months, spent scouring the web-

when all he needed were the ideas in his head.

He took a chance, started his own blog,

the apprehension faded from his mind, clearing the fog.

This was fun, he realized- this was the best!

He wrote what he wanted, his followers took care of the rest.

They read and read until he had built up a crowd,

looking at his work, he was finally proud.

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Your Life Means Your Path

Going through life doing what other people tell you will get old quick. As a child it’s just how the world works- you learn from your parents and teachers. But when you reach a certain age, perhaps around 18 or 19, you begin to use what you’ve leaned about the world to formulate your own plans and ideas. At times it can be hard for both you and those who used to tell you what to do to accept that you are an individual. Sure, there can be sadness associated with growing up, but I believe the overall freedom to take advantage of what the world has to offer in one’s own direction far outweighs the nostalgia.

Maybe you’re older than the ages I said above and you still feel as if you get told what to do day in and day out. While some of this is possibly unavoidable in rare circumstances, I’d say the majority of us are simply not taking full advantage of our human rights. And when I say human rights I don’t mean controversial issues. What I am talking about is every human’s right to do what they choose on this Earth. There are so many wildly different opportunities available to people that it would amaze me if someone could not find at least one path they are interested in.

A quick idea to possibly expand your thinking about the world: at any given time you can picture any type of scenario in your head and there is very likely someone in the world who has either done what you’re imagining in the past, is doing it in the current moment, or will be doing it in the future. That’s pretty crazy if you ask me. But what’s even more exciting about this concept is that it is actual proof that you can do it too. If someone else has done it, why can’t you? The answer is You Can.  And even in the unlikely circumstance that what you want to do hasn’t been done by someone before- could you not be the first? At some point everything that has ever happened was done for the first time by someone. It can make this prospect of doing what you choose even more thrilling when you think that you could not only be the first to do it, but also lead the way to inspire others to succeed.

Often times it isn’t necessarily an individual’s motivation or drive that prevents them from doing what they want, but rather not knowing what exactly to do. You can want something so badly, and be completely willing to do the work it requires to reach that goal, but you just don’t know how to get started. Or you know how to begin the process but after awhile it seems unclear which way to go next- how to keep what you’ve begun growing. But think about this- if it wasn’t challenging to do life your own way then there wouldn’t be nearly as many people being followers. This is why I encourage you to keep at what you’re doing. Even if you aren’t sure where to take your goal next, just do something with it. Because at least if you are staying active in the pursuit of your own goals, you’re less likely to give up on them completely. This, in my mind, is a much better way to go than slowly giving up because you’re afraid the next decision you make on the path to success will be a failure. But even if it does turn out to be a failure you’ve still succeeded in the much larger goal of life- sticking with what YOU want to do.

I don’t believe in the adage that “Even if you fail you can always say you gave it a try.” Don’t stop trying! Never let the failures you encounter lead you back to a life of following others. Allow your failures to alter your path- not block it off completely. Because in the end even if you “gave it a try” I think you’d have more regret in not trying enough to actually make it work. Go all out on your goals because this is your life and what you want this life to be about is entirely your decision. Face the adversity and be even more prideful to the naysayers when you meet your own definition of success!

Giving Your Ideas A Chance To Grow

Starting something new and possibly time consuming can be hard to do. It’s easy to dream and think about how great things would be if you could do this or that. But when it comes to actually doing “this or that” we usually don’t even give ourselves a chance.

What keeps us from trying out something new? I don’t believe in most cases it is fear. Or if it is based around fear, it’s the fear of wasting time and not being successful. But simply by not trying- you are guaranteeing that you won’t be successful! You are certainly saving yourself from wasting time if you never start. However, what if starting is actually not wasting time, and continuing to do what you always do is the bigger waste of time? I think the latter.

Thoughts of starting new businesses, investing in stocks, writing books and blog posts fill my head on a daily basis. I seem to have this sense inside of me that “Oh yeah I’ll do something that’ll make me really wealthy one day.” But it’s this thought that used to trap me. For if I always tell myself one day things will just magically work out for me- someday I’ll have lost all the opportunity to actually do the thing that makes me successful. So, while it is important to be confident in your future success, you can’t just keep the idea of success in the back of your mind. Tell yourself, “Today I’m going to start that one thing I always think about.”

Let’s say you do try that something out, and it just so happens it was a total failure.  Well what did you really waste? Maybe a couple months, but not the entirety of those months because it’s unlikely you dropped everything just to try out your idea. (P.S. I do not recommend dropping everything to try out your ideas- keep them on the side at first and allow them to grow.) And you learned from your failures, so now you can either improve upon your last idea, or come up with something entirely different. It’s even okay to take some time off your new ideas for a little while in between. Get back to your regular schedule for a couple of months and then give it another go. I’ll put money on the fact that you’ll be drawn back to trying out your ideas, because it is really exciting.

Doing work that we can be excited about is truly the end goal of any occupation. If we are doing something we even somewhat enjoy and are making enough money to get the material things in life we want, then we can be truly satisfied with our line of work. Don’t wait any longer- go out and give it a try, because you’ll either learn something or you’ll become successful. And I don’t see anything wrong with either of those outcomes.

Your Definition of Success is Defined by YOU

When it comes to the topic of goals people often get insecure.  Take, for example, one guy’s goal may be to graduate high school to proceed into the workforce.  Another, however, may want to get his PhD and then continue into groundbreaking scientific research.  Should the wannabe high school graduate think any less of his goals, just because another man has chose a different path in life?  I’m here to tell you he shouldn’t.

Let me tell you how to be content with your goals in life.  The main purpose in a goal is to set a future achievement for one’s self that they work to obtain.  One could argue the guy in the example above has a lesser goal because the man that wants to get his PhD has a more difficult path ahead of him.  But, both of these are choices by individuals about what they want to do with their future.  So long as the motivation to reach their goals is relatively the same- one goal is not any lesser nor greater than the other.

This example can apply to you- only on a larger scale.  Perhaps you have a friend who is all about money.  Making it, spending it- everything revolves around money.  And therefor this friend of yours creates goals for himself that revolve around someday making a lot of money.  But you, on the other hand, see life in a different perspective.  You want only to find the love of your life and do everything in the world for him/her.  So your goals reflect that- finding the person and I assume ultimately getting married to them.  The actual example I just made is completely irrelevant to the point- it doesn’t matter exactly what your goal is.  My point is that you can focus your life’s path toward any direction you wish- so long as the end goal is what you ultimately want!

I, personally, have multiple goals as I’m sure most people do.  But they have different levels of importance tied to them.  Yes, I want to be wealthy, live in a nice ass house, drive a slick car.  But do those goals hold the highest priority in my mind?  Not in the slightest.  My final goal revolves around what I mentioned before, what I like to call “Living a life of love.”  Therefore living my life, and being more than content, with the love of my life.  That is all I truly wish for, in the deepest sense anyway.  But this doesn’t make me any less determined to crush those other goals I talked about.  I still want those things, very badly, it’s just that I can already find myself content with how my life will turn out so long as I’m with the one I love.  Does that make me dependent?  Of course it does- but humans have depended on one another for centuries.  I see nothing wrong with needing another person in your life to feel full inside.  But I also can see how there are some people that don’t desire a relationship in the slightest.

Never feel ashamed of what you will one day feel proud of achieving.  Sure, your friend might become a millionaire.  But look at you- you’re married to the love of your life and get to spend the rest of your days with them.  Value is in the eye of the beholder.  You may value your relationship as priceless, another person may value their dream car at a million dollars higher than it’s actual value.  So get married, get rich, do both!  Whatever it is you want, go out and get it, and don’t compare your goals to someone else’s.

Your Lack of Success is Inspiring

Inspiration is something we all seek out at times.  Today I offer you a slightly off-the-wall idea for where to find your next form of it.  People can be inspired by artwork, music, celebrities, and countless other things.  But one place that I’ve been finding myself getting inspired by recently has surprised me- the lack of other people’s success.

At first it sounds a little messed up, but allow me to explain why this can be a beneficial location for you to source your inspiration from.  I find myself looking at people around me, mostly ones I know, and thinking to myself- why have you put yourself in this position?  You had opportunity, you had chances, why did you mess it up?  It makes me seriously wonder- is this the life these people intended to live all along?  Or did they have goals that they just couldn’t accomplish?  I believe in most cases it is the latter.

I use their failures as an example.  I use their lack of being able to provide.  I use their nonexistence of abundance.  It inspires me to be the exact opposite, to be successful in ways these kinds of people probably cannot even imagine.  And in a way, now that I have attained this point of view- these people have begun to disgust me.  Do they feel content with themselves?  I cannot imagine how they could.

I’d like to put some of your confusion to rest.  I do not judge the people in this world who have found happiness with a simple life.  I judge those who did not choose that life and are forced to live one they are unhappy in because of their failures.  Many of them had the opportunities they needed in order to reach their goals, yet could not follow through.  I used to pity them, but no longer.  They are lazy in my mind, ignorant above all others.  Take the child born into a poverty ravished country- he knows nothing of opportunity, of the goals I and others like me have.  This child is different from the people I discussed before.  The kid did not miss out on opportunity from his own doing, he was simply born into the circumstance and therefor knows little of nothing else.  I will never prosecute someone who was born into a life with little hope of great things.  But I will forever applaud those who manage to crawl their way out of it.

I encourage you to take a look around at the people in your life.  Ask yourself if they had a chance to do what they wanted and failed to.  You don’t have to hate them, you can still get along with them just as you always have before.  But now use their failures to drive you to reaching your personal successes.

Never settle.  If you don’t consider it settling and you are truly happy then you have won.  If you decide you can “live with this” then you have lost.

Escaping Normality

When you think of normal, what comes to mind?  A guy who drinks his morning cup of coffee on the way to his 9-5?  The real question is, why do we all strive to attain mediocrity?

Now, some of you could say I’m a hypocrite when it comes to the subject.  I’m going to a 4 year university and majoring in the business category.  However, I consider it my back-up. Yes, I really have made my college education my plan B. (no, not the birth control jackass)  Basically if none of my other ideas in life make me a living doing something I would enjoy much more than a 9-5, I’ll always have that to fall back on.  It’s always good to have a fallback.

But this article is about you.  Do you really want to be another person working for someone else just to afford the things to keep you and your family happy and healthy?  It’s not a rhetorical question- I know plenty of people that are quite content with the idea.  But that’s just it- most everyone looks at life with this as their max expectation.  The ones that see life in a different light are the people who are doing something that they are either passionate about or that makes them a LOT of money.  Usually both.  I can rattle off names to give you examples- Bill Gates, Michael Dell, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, etc etc.  But what you may fail to realize is that there are thousands, likely millions, of others who make a great living doing work they don’t consider work.  That’s when it’s easy.  That’s when the money flows into your life and you don’t have to worry about waking up at 6 a.m. the next morning.

Here’s what you’re going to tell me, “But he’s not mentioning the risk involved.”  Sure, there’s risk- but the way I choose to think of it is like this: I’m risking working 9-5 for the majority of my life by NOT taking the chance to make more money doing what I love.  You really shouldn’t even have to read the rest of this article, that one line should be enough.  But in case you’re not quite convinced I’ve got a little more for you.

Okay, so you’re still concerned about risking your lively hood on something that may not work out.  Then do a variation of what I’m doing!  I’ll tell you right now, I do not want to end up in that office doing whatever work my boss lays on me for the week.  I want to sit in my own office, in my house, overlooking the sea.  Or something like that anyway.  But I’m not afraid to fail, and you shouldn’t be either.  If I end up having to work a regular job for a few years, so be it.  Because I’ll still be working on new ways to escape normality even then.  I have until whatever the retirement age is to escape that job.  There is no downside.  You CAN find the time.  Don’t you think most of those people who have become rich doing something different have had a lot of other obligations?  Of course they did.  Do you think they ever thought about what might happen if they didn’t succeed?  Absolutely.  But the one thing they didn’t have to question was their will to escape the norm.  To breakout from the rest and become a leader in life.  And now a lot of them help others do the same.

I’m not telling you to quit your day job and start auditioning at the local theatre.  I’m telling you to go there directly after you get off and knock that audition out of the park!  Your family and friends won’t laugh at you.  And if they do, then they just provide more evidence to what I’ve been trying to tell you all along- people are afraid to be different.  So power ahead and lead the pack for a change.  Hell, runaway and start your own pack full of more motivated wolves who want to make money their own way.  And if you don’t get the wolf reference it’s okay- just try something different and at the very least you can have one less regret.

The Hope of Disappointment

We go through a lot of emotions- I mean a LOT.  But there is one in particular I’ve found people try to avoid at all costs.  Disappointment.  Think about it, when we cause people to feel other things like anger, we almost get a rush off it in the moment.  And although we may regret it or feel sorry about our actions later, while it’s going on we usually have no problem escalating the feeling even higher.  There’s a few other feelings that we treat this way like sadness, happiness, excitement, etc.  Some of those we try to make last as long as possible.  Sadness we can even get lost in, and yeah nobody wants to feel sad- but the truth is sometimes we need to.

Back to the point.  Of all the feelings that come to mind, the one I really never want to make myself or anyone else feel is disappointment.  We try so desperately to not disappoint the people close to us that sometimes we make the wrong decisions for ourselves.  Your parents are a big one here.  Maybe they really want you to get into a particular college, or apply at a certain job.  And people tend to want to make their parents proud.  But what if those decisions aren’t the right ones to make for your own well-being?  Maybe you want to go to the college where your friends are at, maybe you don’t want a career in that field.  We can’t let disappointment hold us back from doing what makes us happy.

This comes into play when interacting with our friends too.  Sometimes you can even start to feel that awful sensation as you send a simple text back- “I can’t hang out tonight, sorry.”  See, you even felt guilty enough you had to throw in a quick apology at the end.  The truth is it’s almost never going to be the end of you and your friend’s relationship if you can’t hang out that night.  And friends, the good kind, are great at understanding this.  You have other obligations, it’s OK.

Of course, there’s also self disappointment.  It’s a feeling that usually comes in after disappointing someone else.  You forgot to do the errand your mom really needed you to do, you failed your exam at school, your boss thought you could have done better with your report.  Well, here’s the great thing about disappointment- in most of these cases you can allow it to motivate you.  Tell yourself, “I don’t ever want to make someone feel that way again.  I WILL do better.”  If you start thinking this way rather than getting bummed out every time, you really will start to see a difference.  And then when you succeed, you’ll replace that old feeling of disappointment with ones like pride, happiness, and satisfaction.

Some people can tend to say things like, “Well I don’t care if I’m a huge disappointment.”  I’m not denying there are people out there who don’t care about disappointing others or themselves.  But I’ve never met anyone who strives for disappointment, goes out aiming to get that feeling.  These type of people certainly aren’t a lost cause.  Everyone reaches a point where they feel the need to at least try doing something different.  It’s because people don’t want to feel bad, and their minds will lead them to do things to make themselves feel better.  It’s not always the right thing, but they will adapt.  That’s why the people near to them need to give that little push in the right direction.  Nothing too specific, don’t make them think it’ll be the end of the world if they don’t.  Just enough that they have the freedom to choose what specifically they do, but it’s still in the correct direction on the path to a less disappointing and more joyful life.

Moral of the story- don’t fear disappoint, don’t think it’s completely unavoidable either.  But always let it inspire you to do better.